Diane asked a few questions that I wanted to comment on. I also want to invite you all to email me for off line questions and more personal information if you’re interested. Under the about tab on my home page is an email contact form. I respond to all emails.

Here they are:

“As a woman I try to develop my own WLM with my husband I would also like to learn other things about your relationship. How did you get started in your Femdom marriage? How was your life before you began taking the lead in your marriage? Did you husband come to you? How? Does your husband have a set of rules and responsibilities that you require him to live by? What happens when he slacks off (my husband is my servant, but he still lets things slip occasionally). Do you have consequences for him when he slacks off or when he displeases you?”

I have answered some of these questions in previous posts but there are 90 of them and I did not want to attempt to find them so here I go.. This is my recollection so it’s close to reality as I can go.

We got started 5 or 6 years ago I think, but maybe even longer, He was in a busy year of full on commitments to his full time employer (manages a technical group of 20 or so) and he owns a successful contracting business where he had two complex jobs going on with 7 employees, (he also does his own business books and payroll too) One in San Francisco area at a Mega  conglomerate and another at  a power plant doing an upgrade. Both were for around two years each. One more thing he teaches a sporting activity. This is his work life so no big deal, and then he had me, our kids and home life plus the rest of his normal duties and activities.

He came home one day and disappeared to our bedroom, I walked in to see him lying on the bed, his expression was blank, staring at the fan going round and round, he was in total burnout. I felt so sorry for him, I just wanted to hold him and take away whatever was wrong.  I never saw it coming because he has always been an over achiever and keeping up this pace was normal.

After a while I asked him what I could do to help him. He said you can help by just telling me what you need and want, I do not want to think anymore, I have to do that everywhere I go and with everything I do. I was not sure what he meant exactly so I questioned him a bit. His Idea was that I figure all the things out that need doing here and just tell him and then he will do them. He felt if someone could just tell him what to do then all he would have to do is follow their directions then he could relax and just do them.

After a few days off he was back to normal so I asked him if he still wanted my directions, he said yes. When he first told me that he wanted me in control, that night I went on line to read about it and that’s where I found info on FLR and FemDom.

One thing led to another and here we are today. I went from normal (I think) to a very confident FemDom master in a completely FLR relationship with him. We are both very happy and content with the way it came out. He was always very attentive of my needs and protecting of me, so I also should have seen his desire to serve me since the beginning. He always loved spending long periods of time orally satisfying me, another tip off he could be trained as a submissive.

He also always wanted to make my life easier by doing the shopping and kitchen cleaning and the cooking. This should have been another tip off right?

He has been doing the routine house cleaning now that he is my sub, as I said he always cooked and cleaned the kitchen anyway, all that was added was the vacuuming and bathroom cleaning, laundry, ironing, things I felt were customarily done by the Woman. I wanted him to be my house wife but in his macho male body.

Sexually I took control like I was the man in a normal relationship. For instance, I force him to drink my pee like a husband making his wife suck him off and then making Her swallow his thick load. I feel every time he sucks out my piss its like if I had a cock I would be shooting my load down his throat. Crazy, maybe, but I still feel this way today.

Don’t knock it until you try it! You need to take complete control of him!

He did not think about the Fem part of domination. He learned shortly after that he now has me in complete control. I had to teach him how to taste and swallow his own semen, as I said, drink my cum (pee), take a strap-on and as a woman has to, not necessarily enjoy an orgasm while servicing me.

He was a good husband from the beginning, even when I made some big mistakes he wanted me and never used it against me or even ever talks about it. We have been married for around 25 years and have 4 children.

As far as rules and such, I have none. I have no punishment for him if he does not do a request because our routine is straight forward; he always does his chores and duties. I guess from reading other blogs this is unusual in FemDom but I guess he is different. I f I even ask him for something it’s never OK, in a minute. He stops and does it right then. As described above he does his chores and cleaning daily and then on weekends the heavier ones. I have never had to remind him. I have posted about sometimes I have him put in a butt-plug and some panties and vacuum the house just for fun. He does it with a full erection, I enjoy seeing it, and also I will sometimes have him come to where I am sitting and slap or squeeze his balls during the vacuuming for added domination.

I have become very spoiled and lazy because of it. I do not have to shave anymore, he does it for me, he washes me in the bath or shower. I have become even hornier as his Dom, I do not necessarily have him bring me to orgasm each day but I do have his face between my legs it seems at least once a day. This helps him to keep in mind his prize, what he gets to satisfy when I request it. We also have unspoken signals for him to come to his prize and drink or lick. (very spoiled)

The answer I think is if you decide to become a FLR wife you need to learn how to use his sexual desire and even think outside the box on how to keep him interested in you while you control him with it.

Like with my sister for instance. I pushed the limit with it as a wife, but want him to submit to other women. I am taking advantage of his desire to serve me to educate other women that do not have the opportunity.


ready for a drink
Anywhere, he needs to be ready for a drink

17 thoughts on “A follow up from some questions on my last post -Repost from a Year ago

  1. I second what Michael says, lovely pic, what’s not to like?
    Nice to hear from you again Dorinda, You have been missed. I think Your relationship is very unique, so very harmonious that You never need to discipline Your sub. I still occasionally fail in my obedience (in areas where I know that my Wife rules), sometimes (rarely) I also don’t feel submissive, but my Wife quickly reminds me of what I wanted in the first place and demands and enforces obedience. In cases like this I have no choice but to obey because She really owns and controls my sexuality completely and know how to use this immense power.

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  2. Excellent post. I love to humiliate my husband. It’s great to see how you are full of LOVE while you dominate and humiliate your loved one ❤️

    Does your husband like to receive and drink your nectar?


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    1. Hi Interracial:
      No he does not enjoy drinking my nectar. I do it for me, for the power feelings I get while i piss and for a little bit after I’m thru. The morning ones I give him sometimes are for my convenience, I dont think as much about them.

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        1. Hi Interracial:
          So, I have already been saving my load for him since around lunch in your honor. As soon as he walks in the door when he gets home tonight I will flood his mouth with my pee, 5 hours worth. I enjoy holding his face in my pussy, he smells like me for the rest of the night, he gets an erection oftem from my scent.

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          1. You’re a cruel woman 🔥🔥 I love that 😘 I dominate and humiliate him by letting him raise two black kids.


          2. Hi Dorinda. Do You think there are men who are not turned on by the magical scent of their Woman? For me it is a physical impossibility. I think that as long as I can get completely hard within seconds of burying my face in my Wife’s pussy and tasting Her fragrance I am fine even though I rarely get an opportunity to use my hardness for sex these days.

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            1. Thank you Dorinda. I am fine but my Wife’s back has been complaining a lot lately and I am helping Her to deal with it. She’s taking a lot of physical therapy and keeps pain killers at a minimum. I am extra attentive to Her needs and do more housewotk than usually. Our sex life is down a notch, even though She says She feels better after orgasm (why not take more of the medicine that helps then? 😉). It’s all oral sex and vibrator for Her now, no gymnastics. I am not complaining, I would anything to help Her get back on track.

              Frankly, I am surprised at Your experience. What a shame. I would at least expect all submissive men to be very enthusiastic about Female scents. I cannot imagine how anybody could love providing oral services without being crazy about that heavenly scent and taste. For me it works like some kind of magic. Both pussy and ass, it is just… so sexy and hot.


    1. Hello Christina. You sound like a tough and loving dominant Woman Yourself. My Wife is not as openly dominant as You or Dorinda but She enjoys it too and She is getting bolder. I consider myself lucky to be with Her and to service Her in sex and otherwise. I would never want to go back to the days before She started to strictly enforce the zero masturbation rule and thus initiated my formal submission (even though She has never heared of FLRs).


      1. Thanks for for your kind words and thanks for sharing 😘😘🔥🔥

        I love my husband incredibly much, and I also love to dominate and humiliate him 🔥🔥

        We would never want to go back to a vanilla relationship. This is far more rewarding!! Besides there is no way back. We have two biracial daughters. The most beautiful and wonderful children on earth 🖤🖤❤️❤️

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        1. It is so rewarding to love and be loved and sex is an integral part of it. It is liberating if one doesn’t have to hide his/Her sexual desires and needs, no matter how kinky, as long as nobody gets hurt for real (in body or soul). What You two (three 😁) are having is out of my comfort zone, but it seems that You and your subby hubby found a perfect match for each other, that’s all that matters. That plus being loving and caring parents to the kids of course.
          May I ask, how is sex with Hans like for You now compared to Michael? I understand it must be very different, but hopefully not only in the good vs bad sense.
          For myself I know I wouldn’t be able to stand it if my Wife stopped enjoying me pleasuring Her (expecially my oral services) just because She enjoyed/prefered to fuck some well-hung guy’s bigger cock instead of my small penis for a change (my fantasy). It is one thing to be teased and denied sex, penetration and orgasms and be used only for Her pleasure as a fuck toy most of the time (I absolutely love that), but something very different not to want sex with me anymore.

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          1. Thanks for your input, Tom 😘

            We have found a relationship that is deeply satisfying to all three of us. I LOVE the attention of two wonderful men.

            Michael takes me like a real man. It’s great to experience a man who knows what he wants and just takes it.

            Michael is very happy that he has free access to a white pussy. He finds it very arousing that I am married. And he was extremely excited when he learned that I was pregnant with HIS baby. Michael is incredibly turned on by the thought of “knocking up a married white pussy” (his words. He said it to my husband). He loves the complete humiliation of my husband.

            My husband loves me very much. What means most to him is that I am happy. His family means everything to him.

            I don’t have much penetrative sex with my husband. He performs a lot of oral sex on me. Especially after Michael has ejaculated in me. That’s deeply satisfying to both of us. That my husband’s way of reclaiming me as HIS wife. We normally feel that we cease to exist as two separate individuals. Instead we become one soul. This is the epitome of LOVE.


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  3. Thank You for explaining Christina. 🤗😃. It totally makes sense to me when you explain it like this and it’s also very hot (I admit, it arouses me to fantasize about eating my Wife’s beautiful pussy after She has just had sex and orgasmed with a well-endowed bull in a threesome). Best wishes to You and Your two men 😁.


  4. I have a female boss who has recently promoted a very young woman half my age to do my job. I am to be her secretary. Sometimes I can’t help thinking she can’t have the same merits as me.
    Am I wrong for thinking that? Is it my place as a man to be thinking that?
    Please I need some advice from the women here – and maybe also correction. I will go with your advice.

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