I don’t normally do this to him, a ruined orgasm that is.

I normally let him completely and forcefully release inside me. I enjoy the feel of him exploding inside me and I enjoy having him gently clean up his semen from inside me when I am through.

I was reading another FemDom blog, there was a lot of talking well posting about doing this to their sub. So I wanted to do it to him.

We were both getting back from our walk and had him lay on our bed. I have posted a little about using clothespins on his penis before and my vibrator right on his special spot.

It took a while to get him interested with the pins squeezing his fleshy head, but after a while he was ready.

As he was just starting to swell, the sign he is getting ready I pulled away the vibrator and let him slowly start pumping out his load.

I cant tell any difference in his behavior right now, he loves and worships me with or with out orgasm. I think its because he is older. I think at some point your man can just want to serve you so much, an orgasm does not change his demeanor towards you.

D

31 thoughts on “Ruined Orgasm

  1. Hi Dorinda. I like it how You make him have a ruined orgasm through a mixture of pleasure and pain. I love the sweet torture of the penis…

    My Wife is also not a fan of ruined orgasms, even though I encourage Her to give them to me. I don’t get many opportunities for vaginal intercourse anymore but most of my ruined orgasms happen when I have to pull out of Her vagina just before ejaculation (I am not allowed to cum inside Her). With Her on the top I cannot reach my penis to finish myself off (She never allows me an orgasm if I have to pull out before She was fucked to an orgasm). If I am over the edge at the time, semen dribbles out while I am shamelessly humping the thin air and desperatelly seeking more stimulation. I feel very humiliated and humbled afterwards if I was not able to satisfy Her. She never punishes or scalds me for premature ejaculations, but I feel deeply ashamed everytime and offer to continue with my tongue or a vibrator. Usually She declines because “the magic is gone” and I feel miserable in spite of Her kind assurances that She doesn’t need an orgasm everytime.

    As to ruined orgasms, I can have two differend kinds, the “good” and the “bad” one In both cases there is involuntary dribble of cum after removal of all stimulation. With the good one there is a very mild feeling of orgasm (maybe 30% of full orgasm), erection is preserved, ejaculation is weak and I remain horny or get hornier and after about 10-20 seconds pause (to prevent full orgasm with all the consequences) I can continue fucking. With the “bad” one the ejaculation is a bit stronger, but the feeling is a total frustration, the orgasmic feeling is stolen from me and I am immediately left with a limp penis with all postorgasmic consequences. I absolutely hate this one, the “good” ruined orgasm however is nice, a bliss.

    I would love to hear from other submissive guys and Dominant Women. Do you also distinguish between two kinds of ruined orgasms in yourselves or Your submissive partners?

    Merry Christmas and Happy new year!
    Best wishes, Tom

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  2. My wife loves to give me ruined orgasms (that’s the only kind I get). Both kinds are good, because I get to do my clean up duty, but if I feel a little pleasure, my down time can last for hours. The best kind, I feel no pleasure, and remain horny as hell.

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    1. Thanks Cincy. It sounds close enough to “my” two ruined versions even though not exactly the same. I supposed everybody is different.
      I love the “good” one that lets me maintain the erection. I can force myself to a ruined orgasm like that, my will is strong enough to fight the urge for full orgasm. With the “bad” ruined orgasm I cannot do it myself, if I am not physically restrained the urge is too strong to prevent me from continuing with stimulation to a full orgasm. Only my Wife can ruin my orgasm in the “bad” way and it is the most humiliating experience for me. I don’t like it at all.

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  3. Ouch! Those clothespins right on the head are painful.
    My masochistic self loves being required to suffer pain to receive the reward of an orgasm, so I find this to be perversely appealing.

    We have not really developed any methods for ruined orgasms. There have been times when I could not control myself and had an orgasm without permission. Those times have apparently been ruined since I would stop all action and orgasm while the anquish of having done so ruined my pleasure. My wife is too sweet though and has instructed me to let loose and have as full an orgasm as I can if I am in that state.

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  4. I commented hours ago and it went into the black hole of the internet. So I’ll try again.
    I don’t have many ruined orgasms but when I do the semen usually oozes out minutes after stimulation has ceased. This is likely due to my desire to prevent an unauthorized orgasm and my doing everything I can to stop stimulation. My erection remains as does my horniness! So I’m still “good to go”. On occasion though my Queen will force me to undergo stimulation before stopping just before I blow. The first orgasms feel almost like nothing, but the second is truly frustrating. After the second type, I will lose my erection for a time though I remain horny. I guess that’s similar to Tom.

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    1. Hi Michael. That sounds a lot like my experience except that with the later (the “bad” ruined orgasm) I feel dissappointed, impotent, frustrated, ashamed, even resentful, I don’t recognize any horniness in the mixture. Any further stimulation of my penis is extremely unpleasant, just like with a full blown orgasm. A perfect and real punishment…

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  5. Interesting, with the right stimulation my boy can cum in chastity. Of courtesy the device prevents any other stimulation. He can’t touch it and I can’t ether. He just stands or sits there and out it comes. Often he whimpers and his hands flutter helplessly around the cage. It is a very sweet exhibition of his situation.

    Janyne

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    1. Hi Janyne. I don’t know how wearing a penis cage for prolonged periods might feel like, but I am sure I wouldn’t be able to have an orgasm locked up, ruined or otherwise. I can be brought so close to cumming without touching my penis that I turn into a crying, babbling and hysterical idiot but to get over the edge and to have a full orgasm I just need to be stimulated there continuously.

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  6. Ruined orgasms are the most intense type there is. I received little satisfaction from them.
    Like other men, I desire additional stimulation once the orgasm begins. And as some have noted, ones horniness is not totally sated by them. I try to avoid them, but sometimes after much teasing and edging, it inevitably happens. I am alaways surprised, that even after what I thought was a well timed stoppage of stimulation, my orgasm continues to build, like a runaway train.
    One thing I have noticed, is that the ruined orgasm lasts longer than one that is assisted.
    Edging is the best, better than any orgasm that often results from it. I am always challenging myself to see how much I can take, without tripping an orgasm.

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  7. Hello Ron. Do you edge yourself and ruin your own orgasms or does your partner do it to you?
    Yes, edging is the best, especially when it goes on for a very long time. Oh the sweet frustration when my Wife doesn’t let me cum in the end… And when She does let me I feel so profoundly grateful for the mind shattering orgasm (but this is rare).

    Most of my ruined orgasms happen when I withdraw from my Wife’s pussy to prevent premature ejaculation a little too late and then She doesn’t allow me to touch my penis to finish with a full orgasm.

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  8. Hi Tom,
    My partner does the edging. When she is doing it, I grab her hand to stop the stimulation before I get to point of no return. After about 10 seconds, she is encouraged to resume stimulation until I Stop her again. I have edged myself in the past, but have not done so in many years. When I had edged myself, I would get so close to orgasm, that the simple act of lightly drawing a tissue across my penis would send me over the edge.

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    1. Ron, you have more control than I do. My Wife doesn’t want me to interfere when She’s “behind the wheel” so to speak. She’s quite an expert “driving” me close to the edge without crossing it. She does it to drive me mad with desire to cum, often enough, but rarely She lets me have an orgasm in the end. Sometimes what you are describing happens to me when She brings me so frustratingly close to orgasm. I would hang on the edge, fighting not to cum (because I am not allowed to) with no physical stimulation. I cannot say how long it lasts, probably many seconds, the urge to cum either slowly subsides or I have a ruined orgasm. While I am in this “limbo” state anything can trip me over, it doesn’t have to involve my penis, it can be a twist of my nipple, slap to my balls, Her hot breath in my ear, a whiff of Her pussy in my nose. An amazing state to linger in…

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  9. If I secure wet spots hands behind his back then remove his chastity device, a process that I can extend for quite some time. Then I have a face to face conversation with the penis. You know size, terms of endearment, how cute it is. Then I ask the boy if he deserves a nice little blow job. He always says yes! Then we make a trade, a time in chastity for a quick one. He always agrees! Then a kiss, a lick and a few in and out and the pulses start then I pull back and the boy squirts and screams and dances, I love the dance. I leave the boy for a while then I lock him back up. I love the look on his face when the lock goes on. He looks so sad and helpless he even whimpers. He knows he will be spending time with his head between my legs so close to the spot he desires but denied .

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    1. Janyne, I am not surprised he always says yes, so would I.
      I am not sure I understand what you mean when You say he whimpers knowing he will be spending time between Your legs next to the spot he craves but is denied to him. What exactly is he being denied? Doesn’t he enjoy pleasuring You by eating Your pussy and ass? I would find that hard to believe. When my Wife wants to punish me for real She takes that (and all Her sexual attention) away from me. She knows how crazy I am about performing orally on Her womanhood. And so is She, but punishment for me takes precedence when I deserve it.

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  10. Tom, he really wants penetration, he remembers what it was like. When a man is in chastity he will remember how a good strong erection feels like and the boy just wants to get hard

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    1. Ok Janyne, I get it. I am also frequently denied penetration nowadays but I guess it is less frustrating for me than for Your boy since I prefer giving oral sex anyway. But to be denied even the opportunity to have an erection and to display my male horniness to my Wife would be horribly frustrating for me. I like to be seen as a strong, potent and horny male who is sexually dominated, used and controlled by his Wife/Mistress. My Wife totally owns me sexually and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
      May I ask, for how long do You keep Your boy locked up before he is allowed to sport erection or cum again? Is his cage really so tight that he cannot have erection in it?

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  11. Hi Dorinda,

    Now that you are the “over the top” femdom wife, why don’t you try something different in 2019? Like cuckolding? Lets see how he reacts? The last time you were with other men, things turned bad. Now that you are a dom, lets see how it goes?

    I am a dom too but a pretty vanilla one. I do sleep with other men, but he has no idea. I plan to cuckold him in future, but for now I am taking one step at a time.

    Love,
    Tina

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    1. Hi Tina
      Thank you for reading my posts.
      No, I don’t have any interest in being with another man. I don’t have a desire plus my life is about as full as I can handle these days.
      We have settled into a calm pattern that seems to fit both of us, I feel we are a team now, more than I did years ago. For us there is no room for a third.
      D

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  12. Hi Dorinda,
    I don’t care for penetrative sex do to pain but I do enjoy sexual activity. The boy knew this before we married. He would love normal male superior sex with me. I do enjoy the company of men, I like to be with them hang around with them and do go out with them from time to time. As the leader in our marriage I have the right to date and even have sex with others should I choose. The threat of Cuckolding keeps the boy on edge. I have the boy assist me in getting ready for a date. When my husband slips my shoes on my feet gives each shoe top a kiss and wishes me a nice night I am thrilled with power. He will wait all night to see when of if I come home, he will wonder what I did while out or who I did it with. When I come home after a night of dancing and demand a long foot rub the poor boy is dying to ask and feel the pain and humiliation of his Cuckolding that didn’t really happen.

    Janyne

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  13. Hey Dorinda, is everything ok with you and this blog?
    I wanted to ask your readers about showing Female authority in regular normal situations. Wet spot serves food and beverages to our guests and steps and fetches at my request. I have taken to having him wear a feminine apron at home. When out he carries the purse and pretty much does as I tell him. I have talked openly to some friends about FLR and the boy’s chastity. Just the other evening my friend Marta, her husband Scott the boy and I had a long talk about chastity and the boy answered many questions . He didn’t have to show Marta or Scott the device but Marta is anxious to have Scott fitted for one.
    Janyne

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    1. Janyne, As always an interesting snippet from Your life, I appreciate it. Please give us more. What the two of you are having sounds very exciting even though feminization is not my cup of tea.

      In our relationship Femdom activities are mostly confined to when we are on our own, for obvious reasons. But last year in particular saw a few quite innocent but public or semipublic displays of my submission to my Wife. And I know they were not the last ones and it seems my Wife is getting bolder. On Her own! Exciting and a little scarry.

      1. Driving my Wife and Her Girlfriends to and from parties. Not very frequently, but it happens several times a year. She can call me anytime in the middle of the night and the other Girls know it. Sometimes when they are a little (or not so little) drunk I get teased and praised for my obedience and other rather naughty comments.

      2. Being a foot servant to my Wife when shopping for new hiking shoes and some other footwear (taking the shoes off Her feet, putting the new shoes on, changing the socks, tying the laces…) The Female shop assistant seemed amused and I had a hard on the entire time. Of course I also paid and carried all the bags.

      3. My Wife reminding me of my duties in front of Her closest Girlfriend. We were on holiday alone. We were renting a tiny condo and had just returned from a cycling trip. Unexpectedly this Girlfriend turned up at the door. I fixed us all cold drinks and snacks and was just about to sit down and join them when my Wife reminded me (politely but sternly) that I had to wash Her sweaty underware and socks before I could join them (hand washing Her bras, stockings and sometimes panties and socks is otherwise my daily duty). I almost ejaculated from excitement because Her friend witnessed this. I of course humbly obeyed My Wife doesn’t want to tell me how much She actually knows. I wouldn’t mind it if She knew everything, it is hugely exciting and embarrassing.

      4. Also on a summer holiday, a different location, a secluded outside bar at the back of a small hotel, with only us and another but much younger couple close by (who were making out most of the time anyway, his hand seemed to be parked up her miniskirt). Suddenly my Wife puts first one than the other bare foot in my lap and demands a massage. I have a huge fetish for Female feet, so I am in heaven and am fully erect. I finish with kissing Her feet and even licking between toes. The youngsters notice it and giggle and I nearly ejaculate when my Wife presses Her foot into the big wet spot on my shorts… We met this couple again. We acknowledged each others with a wide “we know what you were doing…” grin 🙂
      Regards, Tom

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  14. Tom, it sounds like your wife really has a handle on subtle Fem dom. I do like the idea of you driving your wife and her friends to and from parties. Wet spot has driven me and a date to clubs and held my purse while I danced. I have had dinner with a friend and ordered w/s to wait in the car then had him come in to pay the check. Does your wife require you to walk behind her? Do you ever tighten her boot or shoe laces in public? Then thank her?

    Janyne

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    1. Hi Janyne, thanks for responding.

      To be used as a chauffeur was my idea and my Wife took full advantage of it. I also sometimes drive Her and Her Girlfriends to other events. But taking them to and especially from the parties is special. She can call me in the middle of the night to tell me to pick them up in xx minutes and to better not make them wait. It is a polite but firm order, not a request, and I can tell from the background voices that my obedience doesn’t go unnoticed. Suddenly I am fully awake and sexually aroused and I look forward to doing it. Not least because these nominally girls-only parties (which I am never allowed to go to, which is fine, even though I know for a fact that they are not always exclusively Female events) sometimes make my Wife extremely horny and and I benefit from it 🙂
      Yes, I sometimes tie my Wife’s laces in public. Or for instance take off her hiking boots and socks and massage Her tired feet (and later put them back on). But I don’t see these events as necessarily Femdom, even though I get excited by touching Her feet. I always did this. Those two events I mentioned in the previous post were clearly Femdom.
      No, my Wife doesn’t require me to walk behind Her. But now when I think of it, when we go shopping together (which I am no fan of, but I do it for Her), I do end up walking behind Her and I also carry the bags and Her purse. It is a matter of convenience for Her to have free hands. I never thought of it as an act of my submission. Me humbly paying the bill in the end, however, sometimes feels like it.

      Yes, I do thank my Wife frequently for many acts of Her domination, to encourage Her to do it more often and to stop thinking about it. I also thank Her for every permission to enter Her pussy with my penis and for every orgasm (both became very rare) Believe it or not, She still thanks me for some great orgasms I give Her. Totally unnecessarily, but so sweet…
      Did I tell You that I buy all lingery and stockings for my Wife, all sex toys and sometimes hygienic products (tampons, pantyliners, menstrual cups, razors,…)? I enjoy talking to (Female) shop assistants when shopping for these items. They always seem pleasantly surprised to see a man cattering to his Woman’s needs. This is also a kind of public Femdom but without my Wife’s presence.

      I can imagine how Your boy must be feeling while he is waiting for You and Your date in the car. That’s so naughty and humiliating. Do You keep him locked up so he cannot touch himself? Can he develop erection inside the cage? How often do You let him out of the cage and allow him to have an orgasm? Penis cage dynamics are a mistery to me.

      Why is he called wet spot? Due to precum wet stains on his pants?

      Tom

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  15. Tom, I keep w/s locked up almost all the time it makes him much more eager to do the things I like. A week ago at a party some friends threw A man was quite attentive to me and we danced a few times, well more than a few. W/s was holding my purse and shoes while I danced and I could feel this guys hardness. When I finished dancing I was like a school girl, I whispered in the boys ear “OH MY GOD HE WAS HUGE” I thought the boy was going to explode. He was caught in a place of no return and his poor little penis was locked in chastity. The boy didn’t know if I was going home with him or my new friend and he couldn’t even give himself a friendly rub.

    He is called wet spot because of an unfortunate accident he had when we were dating. We were talking and I was doing some friendly touching and he couldn’t hold back. He spent the rest of the evening trying to hide the enormous wet spot in his dockers.

    Janyne

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    1. Hi Janyne.
      What a sweet torment for wet spot to not know for sure… My Wife also enjoys keeping me in the dark like that. I am certain She would not fuck anybody else but sometimes I wonder what goes on at those Girls-only parties that I am never allowed to go to and She refuses to tell me anything. I know they are not always just Women there. The hottest fuck of my life happened once abot 4 years ago after She got back from one of those parties. She was horny, vulgar, dirty and incredibly wet before I even touched Her and She fucked first my face (She had me leave Her intoxicating juices drying on my face until morning) and then reached a screaming orgasm riding my penis (and nearly tore off my nipples, they were bruised and hurt for days after). I was not allowed to cum. To this day I don’t know what those Women (all in late 30s to early 40s at the time) did there. My guess is they rented a stripper. In the morning My Wife was deliciously embarrassed for Her actions. I assured Her that I loved what She did and that She made my day (night). And that I would gladly pay for whatever it was that transformed Her into a randy vixen. It was so fucking good how She used and abused me.

      I was (am) a wet spot too. I embarrassed myself by having an ‘accident’ in my pants a few times, but it took more than just friendly touching (I was deliberately jerked off by my Wife and also another Girl before Her). But most of my wet spots are simply due to copious amounts of precum that I start leaking even with minimal arousal. It is a curse/blessing, my Wife finds it amusing. She discovered it on our first date.

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  16. Good morning Tom, Ah the leakers what to do? Wet spot is somewhat under endowed, shall we say. As a result he is encased in a tiny but cute pink chastity device. Very embarrassing for him. I just slip a condom over the device to catch the drips. Then he can consume the product at the end of an evening and not have to worry about those annoying wet spots.

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    1. Hello Janyne and thank You for posting. It is a pleasure to hear from a Woman who fully embraces Her position in a real FLR.

      I am also rather underendowed (especially non-erect, luckily my penis is a grower), it used to bother me a lot and I am sure it is one of the reasons why it turns me on to be submissive to Women I am sexually attracted to.

      Using a condom over the cage is a simple and effective solution for a dripping penis. But I am never caged so I sometimes wear several layers of tissue in my underpants when there is a danger of serious embarrassement. My Wife suggested that I should wear Her pantyliners (I actually did that too). I know some Women are turned off by lots of precum. One Girl once was disappointed (and a little disgusted) that I already ejaculated in my pants when She reached inside my pants – even my hard dick and real ejaculation a couple of minutes later didn’t convince Her itvwas just precum. Luckily, not my Wife, after so many years She likes the response She so easily induces in me. She used to tease me slowly and mercilessly (when we’re in the movies, for instance) just to make it acquard for me to hide the conequences later in public (precum or real cum). I wish She still did this to me sometimes…

      After a while we had a weekend to ourselves again and I spent it in total servitude to my Wife. It was amazing, my Wife is pushing the envelope big time. We actually had no sex as such (She wasn’t feeling like it), but She teased and edged me, denied me the release, I smelled Her panties several times, worshipped and massaged Her feet and I served Her in all other nonsexual ways while She was resting and enjoying herself. We also spent time just embracing and cuddling. She kept me naked most of the time, or wearing only Her dirty panties or a big buttplug (my asshole is still sore after wearing it for half a day). I got and lost erection many times over these two days. And guess what – our home wasn’t this tidy and clean in months… I love Her.

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  17. What a nice string of replies and comments! I hope all is ok with Dorinda, the absence is a bit long this time.

    I do enjoy doing directed errands for my Mistress while locked. When she gets busy, she sometimes require that I shop for groceries and drop them off. I always do this while caged….wish she asked more often!

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  18. Oh My!!
    I am so sorry for not responding to all these comments on this post.
    I always try to respond to each of you soon after you comment. This post got away from me. I sort of just penned up a quick notice of what I was doing to him and forgot about it.
    Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your comments and sharing your personal feelings with all of us about this topic.
    Well I guess in a way my husband always has a ruined orgasm. As I have mentioned several times I enjoy having him clean me up when I am thru with him and allow his release. I love for him to cum inside me. It’s like the finishing touch; I feel our closeness and see it in his eyes or the way he is kissing me at that instant of release. I get just as much from this as I do my many orgasms
    But when he is at orgasm I have taught him to pull out half way and stop or at least have the head of his penis inside me with no in and out so when he is through most of his load is available for him to clean up. It’s always a full load with several spurts.
    Thanks again for reading my blog.
    D

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