This is part two of a series of posts about how to find a good Dominant Girlfriend or Wife. But from the Women’s prospective

This post is about the Femdom Wife of FLR marriage Wife, the kind of things that I feel are the benefits received from this type of relationship.

For me, the most important thing I have gained is complete success of my life and marriage.

What is success? It is a very large variable for each of us; maybe no two of us are alike. My success as an older Woman is I have a happy and secure marriage, I have my man. I believe younger Women reading this may not understand. It may even seem contrary to a FLR. My generation was programmed to finding a man and getting married, having kids, in a lot of ways, actually being subservient to your husband. This was the norm of those days. The good thing for me is my husband was always helpful and a partner so in my case I was never really a servant to him.

Let’s be honest though, maybe not to my husband but to other men yes I was. Remember the posts I wrote explaining why I love to have my husband’s lips tightly inside my pussy sucking my urethra while I squirt my pee down his throat, like many of those men did to me with their penis making me swallow their long hot squirts of semen.

Many men do not do much in a marriage around the house, with the kids, or with shopping, etc. They go to work (if he has a job) and the Wife does all of those things and may have to go to work too. Well this is still happening today in many marriages. This is how we change things by gaining control of our marriage, our lives, and our husbands. If he is a normal man we have to stand up and start making changes.

The very first things we do is stop having sex with him. We have to be strong enough at this point to tell him no more until he starts doing the things you need. (Remember I said a large variable, your needs).

This post is about the benefits, if you want to know more about how to change to a FemDom wife or enter into a FLR, please read my blog from the beginning I explain how I did it or e-mail me directly..

The benefits I receive are I am financially secure, I control all of our money, I have all the control over everything, he does not know anything about it now. This is very securing for me, no matter what ever happens I am financially secure for the rest of my life. (This is huge)

He shops, he cooks, he cleans the house (all of it including the bathrooms), he does most of the laundry, He does all of the ironing.

So one of the things I read you need to make him do is wash your panties, bras, nylons, etc. by hand, so he can smell you, he is washing the parts that cover all your Woman parts with his hands. The idea is he has to clean the things that cover your female parts he cannot have any more without your approval.

He has become a near professional pedicurest  on my toes; he can massage me for hours. Feet, legs, body.. He also shaves me everywhere, my legs, pits, pussy..

Its fun to see him now when he is shaving my pussy, he does the entire area, including inside, also around the anus area. The reason it’s fun is it is very relaxing, and he is right there where he wants to be but is so submissive to me now I don’t have to worry about him wanting to be inside me. He knows that only comes when I specifically allow it.

The gain is so large because he does all these things without whining or bugging me to have sex, or get him off, whatever.

Another benefit is sex, I can have as much as I want from him and he does not necessarily get any for himself. He probably gets to orgasm maybe 20% of the time during my sexual and orgasm sessions I put him thru. I have much more sex now because all I have to do is relax and orgasm, any way I want. The best part is I can be selfish, when I am fully relieved, I am done. No reciprocation for him. And a well-trained husband will not ask, and especially will never demand. If it’s at night and I was going to bed, when I am thru with him, he will lie in bed and hold me like he did when we were first married. Many times I feel his hardness against me. I feel his want for me throbbing. This is a very wonderful feeling.

Another is he will want to be with you, he will listen to you, you will begin to feel you are very special. You are, maybe he only shows it now when he is horny..

As a male, are you up to provide love and comfort to your wife like mentioned here in this post.

D

Doing my personal service
He has become so good at keeping me clean down there and keeping mr Trimmed

 

13 thoughts on “Some of the gains for a FemDom Woman in a 24/7 Relationship

    1. Hi Cincy:
      Thank you for taking time out of your day to read my post.
      We are lucky (in my opinion) to have husbands that want to make our lives this way.
      I think back now and look at our younger days, the stress and hardship he was under, it seemed to have effected him more than me. He was always so driven.
      So anyway now he is driven to do anything he can for me, he could cum now and when the last pump is done, immediately start serving another need of mine, many men after release are done until they get horny again to service you.
      That desire to serve me overshadowes his normal refractory body response. He can also go a month or more with no release like you are trying to do in Loctober and he is still as loving day in and day out. Its like in my presence he is neutered..
      D

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  1. This is close to where we are at this point. It took her years to allow herself to be selfish in our relationship, as that isn’t her nature, but she now understands how exciting I find fulfilling those selfish desires.

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    1. Hi Ux:
      Thank you so much for reading my blog and replying.
      Even today years into it I still feel I am being selfish, Its not that I am lazy ether. I enjoy doing some housework but if I did it I think it would hurt him. He is very proud of doing these things for me.
      My life is so much easier. He was always a better cook anyway.
      One of his favorites is cleaning the bathrooms. He is so proud of the clean smell, he always always gets a full erection while doing them. I guess in his mind the bathroom has some sexually submissive undertone..
      I am happy for you two, that you have a wonderful relationship, Happy marriages and happy Wife’s do not get enough recognition..
      D

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  2. women in conventional marriages have controlled sex by giving and withholding for as long as there has been marriage. Men in conventional marriages have done favors and cleaned for their wives as a way to win their affection. When my boy told me he was looking for a female led relationship I thought what the hell is he talking about.

    When I gave it a try I was amazed. It has not always been what he thought it would be either. He is sometimes surprised at my authority and demands.

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  3. Want to be submissive will never know what could be if they don’t try… after 13 years of marriage I finally admitted my submissive fantasies to my now Queen wife. She surprised me and wanted to lead. We are more vanilla than kink but we’ve come a ways …
    james

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    1. Hi James:
      Thank you for reading my blog post.
      That’s OK. Our relationships are personal and individual. I think it is Awesome you were able to trust your wife and come out of the closet so to speak.
      Any form of submission makes for a much better husband and then the marriage.
      I could never be with a normal vanilla man again.
      I am so very glad my husband is my submissive
      D

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  4. Likewise, I could never have a vanilla relationship again. My happiness comes from submitting to my wife in any way she will allow me to. Sometimes she warns that I should be careful what I wish for, but I have not regretted anything at all about our female led relationship. When she has me at my most aroused state I ask her to please completely own me and beg for her to use and abuse me in any way she wishes.
    I love and trust her completely, and so much more than I ever did before discovering this type of relationship.

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    1. Hi Mr Bill:
      Thank you replying.
      I think my husband is exactly like you. The hornyer I make him the more Dominance he craves. He has come a long way.
      Three major things come to mind, I can see major personality changes when he gets super aroused about humiliation in front of other women, strap-on milking, and ball busting. He becomes very open and wanting them.
      D

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  5. Always such insight. I don’t know how you arrived at it without any guide at all, but plenty of folks (I am sure) thank you for sharing your experience and guidance. The description you give of a FLR is the reality. Thank you again.

    Males can easily develop a fetish on any object or action that is associated with sex. The bathroom cleaning you describe above is a perfect example of this!

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    1. Hi Michael:
      Thank you for replying.
      I think as far as the mainstream goes you are absolutely right. But, I have gotten many emails from Women in FLR relationships, I now believe there are lots of us out there, its just not something you advertise. A common denominator in FLR relationships are most if not all tell me they keep their husbands in a cage. I have been recently schooled about that it is a must to control your man.
      D

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