Here is a no-brainier about a Femdom Wife led marriage.

Besides many other benefits like financial security, no arguments, a partner that does 100 percent of the joint choirs and duties, etc. is the sex.

Since my last post I have received a mountain of e-mail regarding oral sex, the receiving of it as a woman.

I know my sex drive has tripled and maybe even more then that since taking control of my husband.

I believe it’s because as a normal woman your husband wants sex, you think OK, I love him so no problem. He tries if you’re lucky, to get you horny enough to get wet, then when he is thru you may not have had your relief, he is done and unless you get out your vibrator you don’t get your needs met. I know this is a simplified version but very true to the point for many Women.

Now as a FemDom wife, You tell him you are ready for his service, he provides it for you, no worries if your clean or dirty down there, and you get all your needs met. Because you can relax and take your time knowing when you are finished with him you’re done, no worrying about his needs.

I know these two examples are true because of 24 e-mails the last 2 days on the topic as well as my own personal experience.

Also, many men that have commented and/or e-mailed me have talked about being caged or want to be so their Wife can control their releases. These men are for sure in it knowing no way do they orgasm without Wife’s permission, She has the key.

My husband is not caged but can and does follow my exact orders and knows there is no release after the service unless I say so. Power for me and it keeps him interested hoping for that male driven release he craves so much..

Anyway, my desires for sex and orgasm’s have increased because Its all for my pleasure, no work from me, no let downs. So now if I am even a little horny I have him take care of me, It takes a little longer then but a good sub will provide what it takes for you to orgasm one or in my case many times.

One last thing, I have concluded that many marriages in my age group are set up like this D/s model for the Wife. I think we learn together over time and the husband accepts his place under you much easier than a young man can.

D

Not Me but you get the idea

25 thoughts on “No-brainier about a Femdom Wife led marriage and Oral Sex

  1. Many women in your generation have been routinely underserved by their partners. An #FLR can turn this situation around. Although many guys are willing to enter into this type of relationship, many women are reluctant. I wonder why?

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  2. You mentioning that older men are more likely to participate in D/s relationships stuck out to me. I’m 22 and curious about entering Femdom relationships but strongly believe that any woman I am with would lose respect for me and the relationship would not be successful. You’ve mentioned before that you love and respect your husband. How do you reconcile his nearly 24/7 subservience with love and respect?

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    1. Hi Matt:
      Thank you for reading my blog.
      This is a very good question, I do not know about today’s women at the age of 22. When I was 22 sex was sex. It was good but I don’t think I would know what to do if my boyfriend asked me to dominate him then. I think for me anyway as I aged and matured I started to understand men a lot more, their motivations, their needs, how they think,(mostly with their penis) so basically everything I thought about sex and men in general was and is now different.
      I think around 40 or older, Women start to understand the reality of their situation, good or bad. Now remember this is my analysis, surely not all Women’s views.
      A mature Woman is adult enough to sort thru the entire BS in life and conclude that a man can be trained or altered to satisfy Her needs, and he can still be a man, that it may be in Her best interest to do it. Sure you can just continue down the road of mediocrity or have it all. Obviously very few choose my life style but those that do win.

      About respect for a male that wants to be sexually and domestically and/or other ways dominated?
      It’s a real good question but actually a foolish one in deed.
      I completely respect my husband. I am very proud to be by his side as his Wife. I also respect several of my close submissive followers. Respect for a person (a male sub) has no bearing on whether they are a submissive or not. I know a lot of websites make it out that way, a loser, a sissy, a cuckold, etc. Total Bullshit
      It’s about what do they represent, how do they stand up for the weak, stand against the assholes out in the world, their position on local and world events, what kind of man they are, what kind of a husband and father they are, are they loyal, are they honest This list could go on and on.
      I want you to see as a mature Woman, my view of respect towards a man has nothing to do with my ability to Dominate him, or any another man that is dominated by his wife.
      These Men are real men; they have opened up and put their heart out in their hands with trust to their Wife. This takes a lot of honor and strength to do so.. A lesser man may abandon his wife and family or seek a prostitute, etc. because he does not have the strength and can not lower his pride to talk directly and very honestly to his wife. ( Think about how hard that can be for a man in this fake world we are in today)

      My new friend, I hope you find what you need, and in the process make a worthy Woman your Dom. Maybe an older woman would be good for you?
      D

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    1. I may of exaggerated Cincy, He does not do 100% ether. I guess I was being generous.
      He does do most things, but he seems to enjoy it if its for me.
      He can do most things better then me anyway, yes, I do hate this, but he never says that to me, or throws it in my face, because he is a nice person to me.
      I think I have posted this but it has been many years since he raised his voice to me, we do have difference of opinions, I do not always win nor do I need to.
      Well, actually I do always win because he serves me!
      D

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  3. I am not caged either and cum only when I am allowed. It started with a 100% ban on all unauthorized masturbation nearly four years ago. At that time I was cumming daily, mostly from masturbation (to Femdom porn or without it). Our sex was at our lowest, I developed serious problems maintaining erections long enough to satisfy my Wife (but I did my job properly with my tongue even then when given a chance) and I felt miserable for it.
    Then my Wife put Her foot down hard on my masturbation. Fast forward to today: my last unauthorized masturbation was months ago (yes, I still fail, but very rarely and I have to report it and I get the well deserved punishment), we again have lots of sex and it is mostly all about my Wife’s pleasure (I couldn’t be happier about this, I have always enjoyed pleasuring my Woman, but now I experience an almost orgasmic satisfaction every time my Wife cums from my ministrations -crazy but true). And my own orgasms are down to only a couple or so per month and only when my Wife allows it. Plus an odd ruined orgasms resulting from either the teasing sessions or my accidental premature ejaculations.

    It is a shame that there are men who don’t care properly about their Woman’s pleasure in sex (not to mention other forms of abuse).

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    1. Hi Tom:
      Thanks for the reply:
      Your take on your FLR is the same as my husbands it looks like other then I let him orgasm much more.
      I dont know, I guess its because of my loving to feel his pulsating penis inside me and my desire and gratification of him licking up and swallowing his semen. If I only allowed it a few times a month It would sort of hurt me.
      You know one of my favorites is to have him cum directly into his mouth, OMG, it really gets my juices flowing. If they flow to much he cums then goes right into oral sex on and inside me.
      I have to say he does get a work out.
      D

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      1. Thanks for replying Dorinda. To be honest, I would like to cum more often, but my Wife is calling the shots and I am not really complaining. My last orgasm was in August, my Wife’s was today in the morning…

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        1. Hi Tom:
          Probably TMI but tonight is our planned night when he does my feet and shaves me. I can’t remember a time when I did not put him to work afterwards with a very long oral session, he starts on my lips, then clit, then he lays sideways positioning his mouth inside me where he can make love deeply to me with his tongue while I use my vibrator on my clit.. I want his service so tonight will be no different.
          He came last night when he got home from work, he had to change clothes to go to another appointment so while in our room I had him put the vibrator on himself and I sat on his face placing my pee hole in his mouth. I waited until he started bucking before I let it flow, he finished while I continued to pee until I was finished.
          I do it that way because as we have talked about on my blog, men loose interest after spending their load. I used my fingers and fed him what I could of his cum that was on his stomach and chest. The bulk of it unfortunately hit me in the back on my shirt.
          D

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          1. Oh. Not TMI at all and thank You so much for sharing the details. I very much enjoy reading about Your relationship, it makes it easy to fantasize about my Wife doing things to me like You do to Your man. I admit to getting easily aroused by it.
            As You probably remember, my Wife wouldn’t let me drink Her pee even though I encourage Her to dominate me like You do. She finds it too gross. A few times She allowed me to lick Her clean after peeing.
            Yes, doing such things in an aroused state is pure pleasure, but after orgasm it is a big challenge. I have licked and eaten my Wife’s pussy and anus and consumed my semen in the process after orgasm enough times out of the sense of duty (after premature ejaculations), even when She was not fresh down there, that I think I could consume Her piss after ejaculation If She told me to. I would not enjoy it at the time, but I would do it. And later it would turn me on just remembering it.

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  4. Hi Dorinda
    Just discovered your blog. Got a lot of catching up to do on your old pasts. Unlike most of your other readers, I am a lesbian,but also a domme. Presently my sub has had to travel abroad on a year’s assignment. (We do have a more normal side to our life, don’t we all? She is a doctor with a charity organization.).
    I took up the opportunity to catch up with my old college friend, who my rotary had dated and married! My older brother, during our childhood was a bit of a bully. I remember several incidents when he used to boss and bully me to obeying him He used to consider himself a macho.. Hence I was shocked to see how tame, obedient and subservient my friend Pamela had made him. He used to go out to work while she rested at home, and like your husbband; upon return from woke, he would virtually work like her slave at home. In fact he was even obsequious and timid towards me, far cry from his former self.
    Pamela and I are very close and she slowly shared her lifestyle and secrets, how my brother Ken was now a willing sub and servant cum slave to her. She even invited me to watch hi,m serving her in the most intimate ways like how you live, and in some respects she has pushed the envelop further. She explains that Ken is her willing and voluntary slave and ever eager and happy to please her will much like your husband is with you.
    I too got to experience Ken’s service in the form of grooming, cleaning, shaving my body.. Pamela ordered Ken to obey me and I even got to use him as my urinal and to assist me during my bath and toilet.
    Recently Pam had to travel to nurse her ailing mother. She requested me to do “hubby sitting’ till her month. I have moved into her house and Ken is now under strict orders to obey and pamper me till she returns. I have agreed and finds the whole exercise extremely pleasant and enjoyable.The elder brother who used to bully and scare me is now my slave! The tables have turned! I am not cruel or into pain, but I do enjoy exercising my power to humiliate him. Sometimes, I relax watchingvTV, while he waits one me bringing wine and eats. I particularly enjoy eating grapes and othrrvfruits and spit the seed into is hands, like Roman noblesused to do with slaves. The power of having him at my beck as my urinal is intoxicating. I also enjoy making him kiss,rim and tongue my asshole. Pamela has set no boundaries except normal sex , for him! I am free to peg or fig him.
    Sometimes I think, I may enjoy having a hubby, if I could get one likecKen or train mine to be like him!
    When my sub Abigail returns, I don’t know whether I’ll go back to my old lie or find myself a male sub hubby!
    I firmly believe that most marriages and society at large will be a much better and more peaceful place if more women emulate you and Pamela and take control of their lives and husbands. Ken has certainly been transformed for the better.
    Love
    Esther

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  5. Dorinda, we have chatted via Email and you know my thoughts on oral sex, I LOVE IT. So many men think going down on a woman is foreplay. Oral sex is sex and when the boy licks down there it is sex.
    I enjoy what I call lazy oral sex, that’s a long slow licking of the vagina and or anus. If it builds to orgasm or not it’s still good. And the boy is not done until I say he is done. But sometimes after a long day or a sexy book I just point to the spot and say lick and he gets to it.
    My boy, wet spot is , well, under endowed, and after some surgery strong erections are a problem combine that with a tendency to be too quick and penis to vagina sex lacks something. His skill at licking makes up for some of that.

    I am not over the top about intercourse but I do love a beautiful cock and just love to see one. I often describe really nice ones to the boy while he licks. One of the boy’s issues is I enjoy giving blow jobs, makes me get all girly, wear heels, lipstick and lace and the poor boy is always worried I may be giving my gift to one of my men friends.

    As you know the boy is in chastity most of the time and he is climbing the walls for a little relief. I have found that strict chastity is the backbone of the wife led marriage. What is really funny is that he introduced it to me. We now have 3 devices. My favorite is pink plastic and very tiny.

    Janyne

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    1. Hi Janyne:
      I agree, oral sex for a Woman should never be considered foreplay, it should bring about full on gut retching orgasms.
      A common trait it seems from my followers is that as soon as their Wife wants oral pleasure, they provide it immediately.
      Oh my gosh, I never want to wait, once its on my mind my husband takes care of my need too.
      D

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    2. Hi Janyne. I totally agree that oral sex is, well, sex. I never tire of giving it, if I had to chose just one kind of sex for the rest of my life, it would be the oral, both pussy and ass. Giving, not getting it. Of course I like getting a blow job (yes, I do get it as a special treat), but there is nothing like enjoying the delicious taste and fragrance of a healthy aroused vagina and the reponse a proper oral service produces in a Woman. I have been hooked since I tasted my first pussy from my fingers so many years ago…

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  6. LOL, 🙂 wet spot and I have been together for 7 years married for 2. It is a late in life marriage we are both senior citizens. The boy explained his need/want for female domination early on. I knew nothing about it but thought it sounded interesting. When sex entered the dating he couldn’t get hard. He did go down on me. It was pleasant but not spectacular. I had to tell the boy he had a lot to learn and he better buy a book and get on the internet. The next time he went down on me I used slaps and verbal corrections to get what I wanted. He suggested chastity and once more I was not enthused. He installed the device, gave me the keys and GOD it was fun. I had him do the oral and had the poor little guy jumping around like a puppy. He confessed his past cross dressing experience and once more I was not excited. He is good at it and by using humiliation along with that we have fun. I told him that when he is dressed up he is a girl and if we are out I may find a man. He is filled with angst about that and his fear of me going home with a guy keeps him on the edge at all times.

    Janyne

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