I received a comment this morning on a blog post I wrote a while back. Thank you Roberto for the question, I feel it is a good enough question (most people only comment) that I try and answer it so everyone visiting can see my answer.

His question on this post: More about my FLR Financial control of my sub

Why do you call your blog Almost Femdom? Giving your husband your pee to drink, controlling his finances, and dominating him in the bedroom sounds like a full-blown femdom relationship.

My answer:

When I first got in to “femdom” I knew nothing about it, in fact I had never even heard of it. If you go back thru my posts you will find around 10 years ago my husband indicated to me he was interested in licking and cleaning his semen from me after making love to me. He wanted to but as soon as he climaxed he lost interest in the clean-up. This went on and off for a few years.

Then one day he came home and just laid on our king size bed totally naked starring at the ceiling fan going round and round. He had just returned from a project his contracting company was doing for a mega pharmaceutical company. Also going on at the same time was another project his contracting company was doing at a remote power plant. Both of these projects have employees His contracting company he owns. He also has a job at a large utility company where 20 or 30 people work for him, and he is an instructor for a dangerous recreational activity. The take away from this is he was in overload; everywhere he turned he had to make critical decisions, and still does today. He has slowed down a little though.

Anyway I came to him and asked what’s wrong? He said he needed my help and wanted me to take control of everything at home; he just wants to be told what to do for a change.

I was a bit taken back frankly, his whole life including the military he has been a strong, handsome, powerful man, and he asked me for help. I did not know what to do, as time went on he mentioned femdom so I started doing a large amount of research on the topic.

Well I was a normal somewhat shy woman really, sexually anyway. Like I have said, I would not even allow his tongue on my asshole back then.

There are no schools to go to, none of my friends indicated they knew anything about it so I continued to look up things like mentally why would he want this? What do I do to be Femdom?

My research concluded I’m not a full femdom wife because; he is my partner, I don’t have a bull, I don’t keep him locked up with a ball gag in his mouth, I don’t think his cock is small, I don’t keep him caged, I’m not better and smarter then him, I don’t hate Men, he still has a totally normal life outside the home and inside the home when guests or family are around, he is my husband and I actually love him dearly. I femdom him because I do not want him to find anyone else, he is one of a kind, a keeper. An excellent partner, father, grandfather, provider, protector, fixer, lover, the list goes on and on.

The Femdom part I get is a very obedient husband, every need I have he satisfies, full control of all our assets and bank accounts, a new Lincoln as needed, world wide travel, security, financial security,  his duties include, ironing, vacuuming, cleaning, washing the clothes, does the grocery shopping, cooks dinner and any other meal I ask for, keeps my car clean, gas in it, and even checks and adjusts the air pressure monthly.

Now the part you are probably more interested in:

He kneels in front of me like a good female worshipper at my command, bathes me, shaves me, drys me, drinks my piss on command, eats my pussy for hours, licks and rims my asshole for hours, makes love to me for as long as I need until I am ready to end it after many, many full on orgasm’s, kisses and sucks my feet, he wears my panties, he smells my soiled panties crotch area when I want, he takes my large strap-on in his ass until I am thru with him, he wears a butt plug on demand. The butt plug I usually have him insert it when my girlfriends are over under my panties he is wearing while he services us. Let’s see there are so many sexual related things he does, I hope you get the general idea.

I hope I answered the question.



13 thoughts on “A question from a commenter answered

  1. Thank you for sharing, D.

    I would agree with the poster that you are indeed fully Femdom 🙂
    One of the nice things about the lifestyle is that is that it can be shaped to fit the needs and desires of those involved.

    I would say that the things you have listed that you found as differentiating points are actually in a very tiny minority and rarely practiced in a lifestyle context.

    Take care.

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  2. I love how you explained this, Dorinda (and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the pic!!!). I am starting to see how we are very similar in how we receive from our husbands and how we love these amazing men. Happy Halloween!!

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    1. Thank you Mel for your wonderful reply, this was taken just a few weeks ago while he serviced my womanhood lol. I think men need to honor there commitment to their Wife be becoming an expert as mine has orally satisfying her for very long periods of time. I love to inspect his penis after he has worked down there to see the precum leaking out.

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  3. One thing that we don’t do enough of but I absolutely enjoy is when he fills me with his cum and I push him down to 69 with him. I can feel our mixture leaking out so easily and falling into his eager mouth. But I get to taste our sweet residue all over his saturated cock. Sometimes, there is so much cum all over his shaft and head that the flavor is intoxicating. Even though he is just seconds following pulling out of me, he gets hard as soon as I clean his cock and start sucking. It is heaven!


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  4. “he was interested in licking and cleaning his semen from me after making love to me. He wanted to but as soon as he climaxed he lost interest in the clean-up.” EXACTLY where I am coming from (no pun intended) It all sounds great until the deed is done, then there is an instantaneous change in desire.

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    1. Thank you for the reply:
      I understand and watched him go thru this stage as you are. I had to re-train my husbands mind, your dom will have to re-train yours. It is a simple, you have to clean up or no more cumming in my pussy. Then as the dom you must be firm and make him, she needs to push your face down in the beginning. Another way in the beginning stages is to tie you hands behind your back then ride you with you on your back then after you spend in her all she has to do is dismount your cock holding her lips together slide forward and plant her pussy hole over your mouth and open her lips to let it flow. After a week or so you will be on your way to be like my husband is now, all semen he licks or sucks up. He enjoys doing it o pleasure me..

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  5. My husband did this all on his own. He wouldn’t even kiss me after I swallowed his semen after giving him oral. Now, he loves it when I save all of his load in my mouth and share it with him in a kiss. He cleans up after every time he cums inside me.

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      1. Sensitive – yes. My wife says she is sensitive after orgasm but never wants additional stimulation. I’m trying to find a way to work around that.

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  6. Thank you for your comment:
    This is a tricky topic, I have been blessed with being very multi orgasmic, your superior may not be. Each of us Women have very different needs and bodies. I applaud you for being a good submissive and wanting to serve your wife after she allowed your release in Her.
    Talk to Her and see how She would want and like you to proceed. If you are interested in specifically cleaning up and tasting your semen, maybe she would allow you to wear a rubber and spend in it, she could then make you consume your seed right out of the rubber.
    I trained my husband that way.

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  7. Good Morning Ms D.
    Glad I took the time to read this blog. I already know this is where I’m heading. Being a male submissive to my Queen and servicing her gives me pleasure and feels natural. With My Queen in charge of our sex, I will be able to take the time and enjoy the sex, ( I hope for hours) without becoming impatient and exploding.


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